Tuesday, August 29, 2017

Improve Your Writing By Becoming a Professional Eavesdropper

by Edie Melson @EdieMelson

Tips to improve your writing skills
I read somewhere once that good dialogue is a conversation with the boring parts taken out. I completely agree. Just record and transcribe a normal conversation and you’ll see that it isn’t all that interesting to read without a lot of judicious editing.

But even armed with that knowledge, how do we as writers, determine what’s boring and what’s not? That’s a skill that takes practice. 

I believe good dialogue is more like music than anything else. We start with the rules, learning the craft and the technique. But to become masters we must develop an ear, a sense if you will, of what translates well to the page and what does not.

Today I’m addressing how to develop an ear for dialogue. The foundation for that lies in eavesdropping. Although we rarely reproduce something we hear word-for-word. There is a natural cadence to dialogue that comes only by listening. We must learn to edit dialogue down to its essence without loosing that rhythm.

Tools of the Trade
Professional eavesdroppers need tools to be effective. It does us no good to hear a great conversation if we can’t remember it. So I encourage you to always have some way to record those overheard gems. You can, and should, use several things:

  • Pen and Paper.
  • Digital Recorder.
  • Smart Phone Apps (note taking apps, recording apps, even capturing images). 
Be sure to take time to practice with these tools. Keep several with you because your circumstances will often dictate the one best suited for the occasion. For example, it’s hard (and potentially deadly) to use paper and pen when you’re driving.

Places to Practice the Craft of Professional Eavesdropping
There are a lot of places to practice the craft of professional eavesdropping. Pretty much any place two people can hold a conversation will do. But my time is limited, so I try to search out the places that have the best conversations when I’m on a dialogue hunt. 

  • Coffee shops: people tend to bare their souls to one another over coffee. This makes for a great environment for juicy tidbits.
  • Places where preschoolers and parents gather: Are any of you old enough to remember the television show hosted by Art Linkletter, Kids Say the Darndest Things? Whether you do or not, it’s true. And conversations between kids and adults are ripe with quotable bits.
  • The radio: I know, I’m really showing my age in this post. But talk radio, or even radio programs with multiple hosts are good.

Things to Listen For
  • A colloquialism—that turn of phrase that immediately sets the reader in a specific geographic region or time-frame.
  • The differences between men and women—how they talk, that is. Men use different words from women. Words like precious, lovely, and polka dot tend to only be found coming from the mouths of women. There are exceptions, but you get the idea.
  • The length of time each person spends talking before the other person interrupts. This is fascinating to me. I had no idea we were such a rude society. We finish each other’s sentences, interject opinions and cut one another off with amazing regularity. And we rarely lecture.

Things to Watch For
Good dialogue isn’t just words in quotation marks. It’s also the descriptive bits that give us context to what is happening. This includes facial expressions, hand movements, body language, etc.

  • Listen to the words and watch the faces. “You’re kidding.” Can be expressed with shock, awe, mortification, anger, any number of emotions. Decipher what exactly it is that tells you the emotion of the person delivering the exclamation. Then make a note of it.
  • Look at the position of the speakers in relation to each other. Do they lean in? Lean out? Does one of them seem annoyed, how can you tell. These are the small things that make great books.
I could have gone twice as long with this post because I’m fascinated by this subject. But now I’d like to hear from you. Have you eavesdropped on any interesting conversations lately? What insight have you gleaned that you can transfer to your writing?

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20 comments:

  1. My ears will be perked up more now! I never thought to look and listen for some of those things. Thanks!

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    1. Barbara, I'm so glad I was able to give you some new ideas! Blessings, E

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  2. Edie, I love to listen to others conversations. I learn a lot. I watch expressions and body position. I thought I was being rude. Thank you for the permission to ease drop.

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    1. Cherrilynn, you weren't being rude, you were just working! LOL! Blessings, E

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  3. Wise words, Edie! Your advice will make for better dialogue, to be sure.

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    1. Emme, thanks so much for dropping by, Blessings, E

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  4. That's what kicked off Chapel Springs Revival! I overheard a conversation in a hallway at church.

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    1. Ane, that's so cool! Thanks for sharing, Blessings, E

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  5. "Professional eavesdropper" I love it. Watching people's non-verbal communication makes for good "showing" in our writing too.

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    1. Ellen, excellent application! Blessings, E

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  6. Going to the park or shopping center are the best places to eavesdrop for me.
    Great post, Edie.

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    1. Ingmar, great additions! Thank you! Blessings, E

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  7. Love these ideas! Every person has a unique life story and there are times when those stories end up in a book. :-)

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    1. Melissa, you are so right! Blessings, E

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  8. I'm a natural-born eavesdropper...just ask my husband. I'd recount everything people said in the booth behind ours at a restaurant or while standing in line at the store. He always laughed at me. Ha!

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    1. Linda, I think we're kindred spirits! Blessings, E

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  9. Thanks! This is great. Just yesterday I heard, "I thought it was because of me." I can remember all of that eavesdropping conversation!! This is GREAT ---thanks!

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  10. As an only child, I cultivated the art of eavesdropping at an early age! The other past-time I enjoy is making up "the story" of others' interactions in a restaurant/coffee shop or even in an airport. Watching people and imagining their real lives is the best fuel for my blog posts. (First time I've commented here but have been following for a long while. Thanks so much for your wonderful posts.)

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    1. Gail, that's wonderful! Thank you so much for sharing and taking time to comment! Blessings, E

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